Younger guy dating older men
Then again, I know that while I am in fantastic shape now, the law of gravity will catch up with me long before him. For every rule (date someone your own age), there's an exception (a May-December romance that's lasted for years).Yes, he could wake up one day, decide that being with an older man doesn't work for him and leave you.With economics, it's more about getting respect and balancing power.With different interests, it's usually about willingness to compromise."My boyfriend is 46 and moans about our age difference way more than me.I hope I am as energetic and together as he is when I am 46. But most importantly, he brings a lot of stability to my life.From research with single gay men for my book The Mandates: 25 Real Rules for Successful Gay Dating, I found that opinions on age difference run the gamut from vehemently anti to completely pro.For example, Alex, 27, told me that there was "no way dating a guy more than 10 years older than me would work.
It's hard, at any age, to find a partner who is, to borrow the words you used to describe him: sweet, thoughtful, committed, sexy, and compatible.Bottom line: Explore your feelings for this young man, weed out the warning voices of friends, and decide for yourself if your life feels better with or without him as a romantic partner.Remember that two of the issues you've mentioned, financial disparity and shared interests, aren't really about age.But since you're How uncomfortable are you with the financial disparity? Some couples are happily ensconced in relationships with economic imbalance.Others find the economic disparity troubling, especially when it leads to power imbalances.He is sweet, thoughtful, and seems to be very committed.But sometimes, we have little to talk about (beyond the latest CDs, trends, etc.) regarding the more worldly topics of today (the war, politics, the economy, business... Also, I am leaps and bounds ahead of him regarding finances and career.For example, maybe he'd be willing to read the paper a little more and discuss it with you?On the other hand, how much can you realistically expect to share with any partner?But I'm torn between my heart-felt feelings for him and whether or not it's "practical" for us to think about a long-term relationship. – Insecure and a Little Scared In San Diego Dear Insecure, You are in the midst of a classic head vs.On the one hand, I am very attracted to him and care for him very much, plus I am newly out, and he's the first man I've ever loved openly, which makes my feelings for him even stronger, and my situation so intensely confusing. heart dilemma, and the problem is that there's no hard-and-fast rule on age differences.