When dating someone whos separated
Arguments happen because you’re not happy with the present state of the relationship. Your unfulfilled needs create a constant state of tension. From the wise words of Eckhart Tolle, “You will never find salvation in a relationship.” Stop looking for happiness in your partner. In fact, the rare high-quality man has total control over his emotions. As long as your mindsets are poor, you will have miserable relationships.
He doesn’t ignore his emotions, but they don’t control him. Most people are actually controlled by their emotions. They can’t escape the constant thoughts and feelings. You will never have a better BPD relationship until you do. It doesn’t matter if you’re dating a Borderline or not. Most people have poor mindsets, especially when it comes to intimate relationships.
If you attained all these things, do you think your relationships would improve? Your environment and life experiences determine your mental and emotional state.
Am I saying that your BPD relationship will pull a 180 and be healthy forever? You’ll develop a better sense of power and direction. And, if you happen to have BPD yourself, you can make great strides in your own life by following my advice. The world today is much different than it was 10 years ago or so.
But, what I will say, is that attaining complete control over your mental and emotional state gives you the best shot at a better relationship. So, let’s focus on achieving imperfection that satisfies you and your partner. You will lower your stress levels, you will feel happier and you’ll have more confidence.
This is the struggle of not only Borderlines, but almost all men and women.I blame social media and bad parenting, along with other factors.We have a society where everyone is trying to be someone that they’re not. Most people focus on a future self instead of who they are right now in the present moment.I am in my mid-forties and I have been online dating off and on for about 2½ years and dating in general for 4 years.I am a year and a half out of a relationship and in that time, I have found only one guy I was interested in but he did the vanishing act.Because he may be a great communicator, mature for his age, and relationship minded, but he’s also, y’know, a BABY. Go in with your eyes open and appreciate the experience for what it is – a dalliance with the youthful exuberance of your past. “What do guys in their twenties really expect and/or want when contacting an older woman? That’s what I thought when I was a schmucky 20 something, and so did my friends.I would proceed with caution, if you’re looking for something more than a fling with a young stud.They took their BPD drama to friendzoned guys who would listen (chumps). You need to commit to this journey of improvement because it’s a lifestyle.If there’s one thing I can guarantee, it’s this: there are no guarantees.Absolute control over your emotional and mental state is key. You will find yourself chasing your partner, desperate for love. You would be so strong and centered that nothing could knock you off your path in life. You drop everything you’re doing in life for your partner.Your weakness shines and it causes the relationship to fail. Everybody I’ve ever known who achieved a lot of success in their life had the attitude of a winner.