Pastor dating member congregation
These patterns become warning signs for any of us, lest we be so naïve to think we have no vulnerabilities.Because the conversations were informal, I cannot say for certain which among them were the most frequent warning signs.
The church board is already questioning his relationship with you, and wants to know his plans for marriage.
Almost a year ago I started dating a minister at my church. We talked day and night and had a great connection. A few months ago a young lady starting attending our church and she was always speaking to him, but he never changed.
I did inquire about who she was and he said she was a friend’s niece whom he invited to the church. He’s recently been called to pastor another church and the young lady left my church and joined his new church. He and I still communicate daily and I understand right now that he has been busy with his new church, for the fact that I help out there sometimes because my grandfather was the pastor before him and he had retired.
Though the conversations are both sad and tragic, I do learn from them.
And after dozens, perhaps a few hundred, of these conversations, I see patterns.