Marriages that resulted from teenage dating
For every parent out there, this should be a huge wake-up call. This hits the foundational motive to date/court with God’s glory in mind. We know that God’s will for a man and woman is marriage–regarding romantic relationships beyond friendship.Yet, within this goal is the mutual objective: to get to know each other as a brother and sister in Christ in a way that honors God.Feel free to interact with those of the opposite gender.It is not inappropriate; talking to someone does not mean you have a “crush on them” nor does it mean they have one on you. You do not need to flirt in order to have fun with those of the other sex.I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.Although it is not crucial to be good friends before you start dating, the better you know someone the, well, better. Although “to have fun” is not the purpose of dating, dating should be fun. Marriage will be one of the hardest things you do, so set a joyful precedent.There will be differences, but they do not have to break the relationship. I mentioned it before, but it’s worth repeating: always pursue health.
Do not be afraid if it does not work out, you have still fulfilled your purpose in dating. Just because it happened a certain way for your older siblings or friends does not mean it will be that way for you.So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.While every dating relationship or "courtship" may not end up in marriage, it should result in growing closer to God and building each other up in the Lord.Without a God-driven purpose in dating, too often, our youth and young adults will be caught up in the emotional and physical pulls that are naturally there.If you meet someone who you want to do life with or that God is laying on your heart to pursue romantically, then you will still be fine.Either way, the quality of your life is what you make it.Married people have the best dating advice since they have already done it!My goal is to simply pass on, from one teen to another, some thoughts I have developed from my observations, personal experience, and advice from others.Some people date for many years, others date for months, or even weeks. If you cannot do that, then you should not be dating: it is not fair to either of you.Like any relationship, dating and marriage should not be put into a box. Remember, you are trying to figure out if the two of you are a marriageable match. Your relationship is not so important that you cannot enjoy yourselves! Do romantic things, do normal things, do things together, and do things with your friends!