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None of it quite adds up to a picture of a fully fledged adult. He may hold down a job, own a house, have all the trappings of a responsible adult – but below the surface, emotionally, he’s still a child. In theory, it’s something we should learn as children.
But the leaked alleged text exchange between Amber and Johnny’s assistant Stephen Deuters suggests Johnny has been able to do what he likes, have his way and behave like a child for years – with a team on hand to help smooth his path. ‘Toddlers are famous for having tantrums,’ says Bristow.
‘However, a good place to start is to be aware of it,’ says Bristow.
‘He sulked for days when we had to get rid of our old car – a coupé that was completely impractical.The recent breakdown of Johnny Depp’s marriage to Amber Heard gave a brief glimpse into life with a man who has never had to grow up. And needs all the help he can get…’A ‘little lost boy’.The clues were already there: Johnny’s preference for playing wild, fantastical characters in children’s films (Jack Sparrow, Willy Wonka, Mad Hatter); his struggles with alcohol, substance abuse and what he has called his ‘hillbilly rage’; the rock band, Hollywood Vampires, he formed last year (aged 52); Amber’s bruised face. And then every 3 or so month [sic], I’m in the exact same position.’ Stephen writes, ‘He was appalled. But what does it mean to be married to someone who has failed to grow up?Lucy had learnt how to keep life ticking along smoothly.Their flat was never messy (Lucy tidied up after both of them) and their fridge never short of his favourite beer. ‘I was preoccupied, tired and also utterly in love with our son.Partners may evade responsibility by going out all hours and living like teenagers, or be incredibly bad tempered or depressed.’Mumsnet – the popular parenting site – is one place where frustrated partners allow themselves to vent.‘My boyfriend is a great dad, has a heart of gold, is great fun and loves me, but I am slowly being driven mad by him,’ writes one.‘He sulks if he doesn’t think I’m giving him enough love and attention; he sulks if I take the mickey out of him (although he is allowed to take the mickey out of me); he sulks if he feels put-upon to do any chores…and sulks if I have an opinion on something which might be different from his, and then voice it.’Another thread called ‘My Husband’s Sulking is Getting Me Down’ begins, ‘My husband and I had a bit of a disagreement over our son’s bedtime last night and because I didn’t say exactly what he wanted..has gone into a massive sulk…We have already had a major fall-out over his aggressive nature. ‘Maturity can speed up at any time of life,’ says Bristow.Anger is a very physical emotion.’Of course, these are lessons best learned in childhood.For parents keen to nurture emotional literacy in children, Dr Rudd has devised board games such as Rainbow and her EQ card game which encourage children to voice and understand their feelings and those of others.What once was fun and endearing now seemed like proof he was emotionally stunted, incapable of growing up and assuming the paternal role.’It has been linked to all sorts of factors that have conspired to allow fully grown adults to evade responsibility: helicopter parenting; the rocketing cost of education and housing; extended career internships and the trend towards later marriages.At the same time, an industry has sprung up to celebrate the kidult, whether that’s adult video games, cartoons or TV programmes such as Top Gear (both Jeremy Clarkson, 56, and Chris Evans, 50, are known for their love of speed, boys’ toys and gadgets, as well as their professional meltdowns and fondness for wanting things ‘their way’. An extensive study commissioned by the children’s TV channel Nickelodeon UK found that men reach maturity 11 years later than women do: women felt they were fully mature at 32, men at 43.