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The same principle applies to your life in general.You have to take care of your own emotional, mental, and physical needs before you can help your children.If you're still wearing a wedding ring, take it off now.In fact, shed any rings that would convey the message that you're unavailable.
On the one hand, you have a desire to do something for yourself that would be pleasurable.If you've ever taken a commercial airliner, you've heard the flight attendant tell passengers that if there should be a change in pressure and the oxygen mask drops down, parents should always breathe into it first before assisting their children.The theory is that if you don't get any oxygen, you'll be unable to help your child.On the other hand, you might feel guilty for: * Spending the money * Spending the time * Any of the 101 other reasons parents can find to feel guilty Suppose, for example, that you've been invited out on a date, but you aren't sure whether to accept or not.You feel guilty about leaving your small children with a baby-sitter or leaving your older children alone for a few hours. If you don't, sooner or later you're going to resent the fact you never date or do anything socially. Believe me, your guilty feelings are much easier on your children than your feelings of anger and resentment.Your decision to date must come from your own readiness to have a social life.When you feel ready and secure about your decision, your children will come to accept and eventually respect it.By dating secretly, you're telling your children that you're ashamed of what you're doing.Having a life outside of being a parent is nothing to be ashamed of.Everything you do and say and feel is a lesson for your children.When you take care of yourself emotionally by enjoying your life and the people who populate it, you're teaching your children how to become healthy, happy adults as well.